How do we connect? What does it take for someone I’m trying to communicate with to “get” what I’m saying?
For instance, I love my wife. I hope she knows it. How do you think she knows it? Is there anything I do that lets her know it?
I love my son and daughter. I hope they know it. I know it! I feel it – warm, fuzzy, my heart beats faster when I come home after a long road trip. When they are going through something I hurt for them, pull for them, pray for them.
But the real question is, how do I communicate it? Because me feeling it and them knowing it is two different things! If we were all wired together and they could experience what I am feeling we would have zero communication problems.
Unfortunately, we are wireless and the signal drops…so how do we get on the same frequency? Boost the signal? Is there something I need to learn… do… plan… be… so they “get it?”
When I do something physical, like hug my wife, bring her flowers, plan a special moment, take my kids somewhere, get a vision to lead them to a special place on vacation… I believe those things communicate my love for them.
What if I read a lot of books about how to communicate? I could take classes and go to seminars about marriage and kids. That would probably help my relationship with my family.
Why not just be spontaneous always… be led? I could work on paying attention to them and their needs, and then respond whenever something comes to mind that I could do for them.
You know what? I believe it takes all of the above and more! We need to be diligent about the things that are important to us…
Is your music and your message important? Is your audience?
